Which Residence Arrangement Fits Your Child? From Week-Week to 2-2-3 and Everything In Between

As separated parents, you often hear that a 50/50 split is the “fairest” solution. But is it also the best choice for the child? Surprisingly often, the answer is: no.

A residence arrangement should not only feel fair for parents, but first and foremost be suitable and supportive for the child. But what does that really mean? And what are the options?

The 50/50 Myth: Is “Equal” Also “Good”?

Many parents believe that a perfectly equal division of time is automatically best for the child. But children primarily need stability, predictability, and quality time with each parent.

Emotional tension can also increase if communication is overly focused on counting hours and days, rather than on the child’s wellbeing. At Cofamly, we believe communication should be about the child—not about who’s “right.”

What Makes a Residence Arrangement Truly “Good”?

A healthy schedule is one where:

• Both parents spend time with the child and are truly present during that time. Quality over quantity.
• The child feels free to talk about or miss the other parent, without that being taboo.
• There’s flexibility for life’s surprises—like parties, birthdays, or spontaneous moments—without turning them into conflicts.
• Expectations around work-life balance and caregiving are considered and respected.

What Types of Schedules Are Out There?

There are many forms of residence arrangements, including:

• Week/week: One week with one parent, the next with the other.
• 2-2-3: The child switches parents every two days, with alternating three-day weekends.
• Alternating weekends with midweek days: The child stays primarily with one parent but visits the other on set midweek days and weekends.
• And endless custom versions.

There’s no such thing as a one-size-fits-all plan. The “best” schedule is the one that works for your child—and your family.

Age-Specific Considerations

• Babies and toddlers benefit from shorter separations from their primary attachment figure—ideally no more than one day per year of age.
• Elementary school-aged kids are more aware of the impact of the separation and may raise concerns that should be addressed seriously.
• Teenagers and adolescents often seek more stability and independence, and may prefer a fixed home base.

When Should You Revisit the Arrangement?

Life changes. And so do the needs of your child. A move, a new job, or growing older can all be valid reasons to reassess your current setup. Keep the conversation open, and remain flexible where possible.

If needed, the family court can also impose a revised arrangement that better serves the child’s best interest.

How Does Cofamly Help With Co-Parenting Organization?

Cofamly offers a platform where everything revolves around your child: from scheduling to communication.

With a shared calendar focused solely on child-related events, everything is crystal clear and structured.
Financial matters related to the child can also be tracked transparently—making it easier to keep things fair.
And by using a journal instead of traditional chat, unnecessary emotional conflict is reduced.

Conclusion: Focus on the Child, Not the Clock

A residence schedule isn’t just a numbers game. It’s about what truly supports your child’s wellbeing. That takes flexibility, honest reflection, and intentional collaboration.

Be honest about what works. Be open to change. And build a schedule that reflects what your child needs most.

Because in the end, what matters is that your child feels loved, safe, and understood—no matter how the days are split.

Want help building a clear, child-focused parenting plan? Discover how Cofamly can support you.