Vacation and Co-Parenting: 4 Tips for a Stress-Free Summer

The summer months are just around the corner. For many families, this means travel, relaxation, and quality time together. For separated parents, however, it also brings an extra layer of complexity — namely, aligning on vacation planning.

Miscommunication or vague arrangements can quickly lead to frustration, and in the worst case, even cancelled plans. To help avoid that, here are four tips to make your summer smoother and more manageable as a co-parent.

1. Start Planning Early

Good agreements begin with good timing. Don’t wait until the school bell rings in June, when schedules already clash, camps are full, and misunderstandings arise.

Schedule a time to discuss the summer holiday well in advance. Put everything in writing or document it digitally — it helps align expectations clearly.

2. Be Flexible, but Stay Clear

Vacation periods often require more flexibility than regular custody schedules. Maybe one parent wants an extra week away, or a camp date changes unexpectedly.

Flexibility is key — but only works if both parents respect the underlying agreements. A clear structure and mutual respect go hand in hand.

3. Schedule an Annual Vacation Planning Moment

An annual check-in about summer plans is always a good idea. It doesn’t have to be a long discussion, but take some time to consider what’s realistic — for both parents and the children.

Think beyond who gets the kids when — also consider:

• Summer camps or sleepovers
• Time to rest between activities
• The children’s wishes and needs, depending on their age

That way, you balance structure with spontaneity.

4. Don’t Forget Documents and Transfer Logistics

Going on vacation also means having paperwork in order. Kids-ID, passports, insurance documents — make sure these are shared with the other parent in time.

Also, give thought to how and when the children are handed off. Avoid late-night returns followed by early morning departures. Respect for each other’s time — and the child’s rest — avoids unnecessary stress.

How Cofamly Helps Streamline Vacation Planning

At Cofamly, we’re building an app that simplifies communication between parents — with the child at the center. Especially during holiday periods, clear coordination is essential.

That’s why we focus on two core features:

With our shared calendar, parents can link all vacations, camps, and events directly to the child. This creates clarity and helps prevent double-bookings or last-minute surprises.

At Cofamly, we avoid emotional chats and endless message threads. Through our digital co-parenting journal, parents can share practical information like travel addresses, flight details, or medical info — all neatly organized per child.

Together, we help bring peace, structure, and transparency to what is often a chaotic season.